Love is "Imperfect"

So here is the truth, Valentines day brings out a lot of emotions; some of joy, some of pain, and some of apathy. Often, it creates on occasion for husbands, wives, girlfriends, boyfriends, grandmas, and grandpas to convey the love they have for one another. But, is a 24-hour period enough time to portray this message? Does it mean more on a specific day? Is it a punctilious occasion?

To me one day doesn't cut it for these actions and words, it must occur over a lifetime. The way I look at it, and experience it for that matter, the only perfected love is that of the God of Heaven, His Son beside Him, and the Holy Spirit among us. My love is far from perfect, more aptly put it is "imperfect" so to speak.

Consider this grammar study of Greek Verbs:

Within the Greek Verb system lies a verb tense known as the imperfect tense, it signifies a continuous, progressive action in past time that has not yet been completed; as if you were close-up to a parade while it is going by (it is unfolding before your eyes). Although the English language doesn't have an imperfect tense, but rather a simple paste tense (i.e. I knew  you), I like to think that the imperfect can still be applied to my language and actions as a husband.

This is how I view my love for my wife Elisabeth, as "imperfect," it is a progression; unfolding before our eyes. I am not perfect, nor do I claim to be and neither is the love that I display to Elisabeth. But, looking at it in this light helps me realize that love is not only an action, but an unfolding one, occurring and progressing over several months, years, and most likely decades. This thinking helps me to be patient and learn the many intricacies and needs in our relationship; it is freeing in a way.

So instead of simply saying I LOVE you, which signifies a punctiliar moment with a beginning and an end. Wake up everyday and tell that special person: "I am loving you" to convey a sympathy and action of progression in your "imperfect" love. Does it sound funny? Yes. Will it fix all the problems that exist? Probably Not. Will it change the way you look at and think about your love? Absolutely.